The day after Kevin Spacey apologized following an accusation that he made a sexual advance on a 14-year-old boy in the 1980s, Netflix announced that the next season of his show House of Cards would be its last. Netflix and Media Rights Capital, the studio behind the show, said in a statement Monday they were “deeply troubled by … news concerning Kevin Spacey. Executives from both of our companies arrived in Baltimore this afternoon to meet with our cast and crew to ensure that they continue to feel safe and supported. As previously scheduled, Kevin Spacey is not working on set at this time.”
… A Netflix spokeswoman said the decision to make the sixth season the show’s last had been made months ago. Those episodes are scheduled to be released in 2018.
… Star Trek alums Zachary Quinto and George Takei have joined the ranks of LGBT activists condemning Kevin Spacey’s decision to come out as gay at the same time he apologized to Star Trek: Discovery star Anthony Rapp. Spacey was criticized Sunday night by many — including columnist Dan Savage, actor Billy Eichner, and journalist Frank Rich — for linking two things that have nothing to do with each other.
… Quinto tweeted Monday: “It is deeply sad and troubling that this is how Kevin Spacey has chosen to come out. Not by standing up as a point of pride — in the light of all his many awards and accomplishments — thus inspiring tens of thousands of struggling LGBTQ kids around the world. But as a calculated manipulation to deflect attention from the very serious accusation that he attempted to molest one.”
… Takei wrote: “The timing of this announcement has raised some eyebrows, to be sure. … Men who improperly harass or assault do not do so because they are gay or straight — that is a deflection. They do so because they have the power, and they chose to abuse it.”
Kevin Spacey’s being hammered not just for Anthony Rapp’s sexual assault allegation but also the way he apologized. Spacey stacked his apology on top of his first public statement about his sexuality, which brought criticisms from many respected people in and out of Hollywood. But the apology itself fell short of a true, heartfelt “I’m sorry” — as so many apologies often do.
… Spacey says he doesn’t remember (casting doubt on the allegation) and was drunk (being drunk doesn’t excuse reprehensible behavior). So what does make a good apology? Psychologist Karina Schumann published a paper on 1) why it’s so hard to effectively apologize and 2) the eight components that constitute a sincere apology. According to Schumann’s paper, there are eight notes you have to hit:
1. You actually have to use the words “I’m sorry.”2. Acknowledge that you messed up. (As in, “I take full responsibility for my words.”)3. Tell the person how you’ll fix the situation.4. Describe what happened, but without foisting the blame off on someone else.5. Promise to behave better next time.6. Make sure the person knows you know exactly how you hurt or inconvenienced them.7. Much like the first rule, it’s important to use some version of the phrase “I was wrong.”8. Ask for forgiveness.
Bad apologies, on the other hand, tend to suffer from these four shortcomings:
1. Justifying your words or behavior.2. Blaming the victim.3. Making excuses.4. Minimizing the consequences. (“It was just a joke!”)