She wrote brutally honest obit about dead dad: "Finally kicked the Bucket"

You should take the time to read this and listen to what she has to say.

A woman wrote a brutally honest obituary about her father and wants to thank the people who cared for him during his last days. Amanda Denis of Ontario said her dad died at the age of 74. The obituary starts with “I am pleased to announce the passing” of my father.

… “After suffering multiple strokes, one, thankfully leaving him unable to speak, the abusive, narcissistic absentee father/husband/brother/son finally kicked the bucket. Because he treated people with disdain, there will be no service. Special thank you to the staff at the Penticton Regional Hospital for putting up with this miserable human for so long, [and] the residents and staff at Sunshine Ridge for their support towards his family at this time.”

… Denis tried to post the obituary on the funeral home website where her father was cremated, but it was removed. She told a local media outlet: “Not all parents are good, and that’s OK and it’s OK to talk about. My father was absent, he was abusive, he was narcissistic.”

… Another family member, Bonnie Kandulski, says the deceased is her husband’s half-brother and agrees with the obituary. She said, “It was a true reflection of who he was. I am very proud of Amanda for having the courage to write an accurate obit for such an evil soul.”

… In July of last year the Florida Times-Union newspaper put out an unusual statement about an unusual obituary: “We regrettably published an obituary that did not adhere to our guidelines and we are looking into the matter further. We regret any distress this may have caused.” The obit marked the death of Lawrence H. Pfaff Sr., and it pulled no punches. It describes him as an abusive alcoholic who had a 20-year career with the NYPD that was marred by his drinking issues.

… Though Plaff professed to eventually remain sober for 30 years, the obit states he “never worked any of the twelve steps, including the eighth and ninth steps with his children, making amends.” The final paragraph was perhaps the most savaging: “It will be challenging to miss Lawrence Sr. because he was narcissistic. He was incapable of love. Lawrence Sr.’s passing proves that evil does eventually die, and it marks a time of healing, which will allow his children to get the closure they deserve. Lawrence Sr. can be remembered for being a father to many, and a dad to none.”

… Random Thought: You will never see the final, edited version of your obituary.

In lieu of flowers, Denis is asking for people to be kind to one another.